Children – the similarities and differences
My children the similarities and how they are different
I’ve wanted to write about the differences between my two children since I started blogging. I have one daughter who is nearly 3 and a son who is 7 months. So obviously if I was to judge them on their abilities as they are just now, there would be massive differences. Instead I want to focus on their individual character traits and compare their two personalities. Not in any way to be judgemental of them. More because I’m completely fascinated by how alike and different my children can be at the same time.
Right from birth we noticed differences in their personalities. Alba being the most relaxed baby ever and Arran being a lot more vocal to let us know when he needed something. However, even with this huge difference in characters, there were also so many similarities. One I remember fondly is their love of being held and being passed around from one relative to the next.
They both took to breast-feeding amazingly and without any complications. The differences soon showed when we tried to introduce one bottle in the evening. Again, Alba being so relaxed took one bottle in the evening from me with no problem. Yet Arran, for whatever reason, struggled for months to take a bottle. Ruth loved breastfeeding and persevered with it for months. But with Arran it was just harder as he’d only take milk from Ruth. We tried what felt like 50 different bottles, teets or different formulas, nothing making much difference. Then one day he just got it and never went back to breast. Either a very clever or stubborn young man who knew what he wanted.
In terms of mannerisms, both our children of are very similar. They’ve both been such happy, smiley and determined children. If you look at pictures of them around the same age they both look so similar and most of the time such happy babies.
Obviously a lot of their mannerisms and behaviour will be to do with genetics. Another topic I’m fascinated in after my brother was born with a genetic condition osteopetrosis.
But for this post I think I’ll focus on their similarities and differences based on how we might have raised them.
A main similarity we’ve noticed is they both hated tummy time and instead always wanted to stand up to see things and play. Alba started waking from such an early age, she took her first step at 9 months. She then realised she could bum shuffle, so did that for a few months before officially starting to walk one week after her first birthday. I think Arran will be similar as he also hates tummy time and is always wanting to stand up when you hold his hands. Time will tell whether he will be walking early or not but so far all the similarities are there.
As I mentioned both children took to breastfeeding no problem but we had a few more issues when adding a bottle into Arran’s routine.
But in terms of their weaning and eating they’ve both loved everything and both started being weaned around 5-6 months. Arran has loved everything so far and seems to constantly want to eat. Making him far more robust and sturdy than Alba who was and still is so petite. Alba started off eating well but as the years have passed she’s become a lot more fussy, some days barely eating anything but toast and a few bits of fruit.
I’m hoping Arran continues to love his food. It makes life so much easier when they eat and you don’t have to battle with them or worry that they are getting enough nutrients.
Parenting, routine and playtime
I think they way we have raised both our children have been the same. We love a routine, so from an early age tried to stick to a strict bedtime routine. Not only to help Alba and Arran but also for us. So far so good, as both are excellent at sleeping. The only complaint being they get up too early. But we’d rather that, than not have our evenings to ourselves.
I think we are very active parents, always looking for something to do rather than sit and turn the TV on. However, the TV or screen time is not by any means a definite No, we use it when we want or need it to but try to limit it as little as possible. I love playing games or getting active whereas Ruth is far more into crafts or getting out the house. It could be because she’s a primary teacher and is use to crafty things but it’s probably more likely to be that I hate mess and glitter! It just gets everywhere!
So far Alba has shown her love of crafts, imagination games and things like puzzles. She, like us, also needs structure or routine. If you tell her whats happening she’ll normally be okay. Whereas, if something different or new is thrust upon her she’d probably be more unsure.
Arran obviously is a little too young to see much development in playing area. My own judgement is, it’s obvious he loves to play toys. He’d sit for a while with one toy and be happy. He also loves the attention or when Alba decides to join in playing with him. He’d play for much longer if he had her attention.
They are who they are
So, almost to a tee we’ve raised them the same way. There are very obvious similarities which you can tell is just their personality. However, for them being so alike there are so many slight mannerisms that make them so unique different.
This is what I love about them and find so fascinating. As they continue to grow I’m sure the similarities and differences will become more apparent. I’ll maybe do a follow-up in a year to see how they’ve changed and developed.
Thanks for reading
This real life Dad xx