My Religion, my beliefs and my family.

How I was raised.

I’m going to be honest with you. Growing up my religion has been a very important part of my life. I was raised to belief in God by the Roman Catholic church. As a child my family went to church every Sunday to pray, confess our sins and be a little bit closer to God for that one hour a week. My Dad’s side of my family were all Catholics so for me going to church was normal and part of my life. I’ve been Baptised, had my First Communion and Confirmed within the Catholic church.

Some of my fondest memories are spending my Sunday afternoons at church then after at my Granny’s house. The whole family would congregate for the day, when I say the whole family I really mean everyone. My Granny and Granda had 8 kids and most them had a few children of their own too. There was always a feast, sometimes a late afternoon fry up or other times it would be a full Sunday roast with all the trimmings. It was one large dining table, normally around 10-15 people squeezed around. Plus a kids table or a few extra spaces at the breakfast bar set too. The kettle was on every 5 minutes and there was always a special buzz of activity, happiness and love. You can probably imagine why these are some of my happiest memories. It’s memories like those that epitomise my feelings and beliefs today.

My Religion
Wedding day

My beliefs and religion

So I was raised a Catholic and I’m still a Catholic. Nothing will ever change my faith. I pray regularly and I pride myself on being a nice person. Simple as that. I’m also very lucky that my wife is a Roman Catholic, she has been raised with very similar morals and beliefs to myself. I never knew this when we started dating so it was in no way a choice of mine to fall in love with another Catholic. However, it has certainly made things a lot easier when deciding how to raise our children.

Being a Catholic for us is simple. For both myself and my wife we love God, we love each other and we love others. We try to make the world a better and happier place through our love and kindness. We’ll never advocate hate of another person based on religion, where they were born, skin colour or sexual orientation. We only advocate love, happiness and peace towards all people. This is how we have been raised growing up and this is how we will continue to raise our children. ‘Love thy neighbour’ or ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you’. These are simple messages and for me the most basic messages to be decent human beings.

I’m sure many non believers also have these simple beliefs and morals but don’t believe in God. Either way, we aren’t here to judge or make anyone feel like they should believe how we believe. That’s not our choice to make. All I can do is be a nice human, treat all people equally and believe what I believe.

My religion
Alba’s christening

Religion and our life today

We don’t go to church as much as we probably should and I don’t talk to God as much as I should. In spite of this I still feel very close to God and my religion. I know that no matter how far I drift from God he will always accept me back with open arms. I wear a cross around my neck and have a cross tattoo on my arm that I got on my stag do in Krakow. These are constant reminders for me that my faith is so important and still a massive part of me.

We have baptised our first child Alba and will most likely baptise Arran too. By doing this we believe it gives them the best start in life and brings them closer to God. We will continue to raise our children to have the same beliefs as us. By this I don’t necessarily mean to grow up to be Catholics like us, although of course I’d rather they did choose that path. I mean to respect, love and not hate others. To be forgiving and caring without any judgement of other people’s choices or beliefs. They are still both far too young to understand religion, it’s often too complex for me to even understand. So all in good time we’ll explain the reasons why we believe, why we go to church and the reasons we celebrate Easter and Christmas. After that it’s down to them, we can only guide not influence.

My religion

So I hope that’s given you a little more insight into my life and my beliefs. I’m a Roman Catholic who believes in God and all God’s works. I use to go to church every Sunday but more recently have stopped going as much. This doesn’t make me any less of a believer or any less religious, maybe just slightly more distant from God right now. Hopefully, I will find time and the willingness to get back to church very soon. I also like to have my own beliefs. They are simply to be a decent human and to love one another. I really hope this shines through in my personality.

Thanks for reading

This real life Dad xx

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    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 29, 2017 at 7:09 am

      Thanks for your comment

  1. Freddy

    August 29, 2017 at 7:24 am

    I wasn’t raised Catholic, but my faith was, and still is a very important aspect of my life. I love to see how what you and I stand for is so alike.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 29, 2017 at 6:27 am

      Thank you Freddy. Love over hatred.

  2. walktheextramilesite

    August 29, 2017 at 10:12 am

    Thank you Michael for reflections on your faith. Christianity is often portrayed in the West as unmanly and so to have men ready to reflect and talk about the Faith is important to its revival. (There are also very few recognised married ‘saints’ in the Catholic Church which is unfortunate.) Keep learning and studying, praying and deepening in prayer, serving with joy, and God will draw ever near to you. How lovely too that you both share the same faith. This has been a blessing for me and Frances as you probably know. Do not forget the Church, as a living community it is the only society which can give you the bread of heaven. When you are not there the Church is diminished. The Church, (big or little ‘C’) of course is an odd society and is the most unlikely alliances and bedfellows. Sometimes I think this is part of the Divine humour. God bless!

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 29, 2017 at 9:19 am

      Thank you Daniel. God bless you too.

  3. John Adams

    August 30, 2017 at 8:23 am

    Not enough people blog about their personal beliefs, especially when it comes to faith. This was enlightening to read.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 30, 2017 at 1:15 pm

      Thank you John. I think a lot of people shy away from religion or politics for fear of being judged. But if it’s who you are and it’s done in a non offensive way it shows a lot about your personality.

  4. Chantel Mcgill

    August 30, 2017 at 1:08 pm

    Thank you for sharing, it is nice to read other peoples beliefs and their faith.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 30, 2017 at 1:16 pm

      Thank you. I hope you liked it.

  5. iamunbothered

    August 30, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    I have come to an understanding that one’s faith and beliefs is not dependent on how much you go to church but other more important stuffs like showing love and care to people around you. Love when people are not ashamed to proclaim their beliefs to others. Thanks for posting.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 31, 2017 at 8:03 pm

      Obviously going to Church is the fundamental of our religion, it brings us closer to God, we can confess our sins and recieve the body and blood of Christ. However, if like me you drift away from that, It doesn’t diminish your faith. I still believe the same way and still act the same. Thank you so much for your comment x

  6. anywaytostayathome

    August 30, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    It’s lovely to read what your faith means to you and sense how it makes you happy. I think that’s all we can really ask for in life. #fortheloveofBLOG

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 31, 2017 at 7:57 pm

      Thank you. I’m glad the true meaning of my faith came across. Thank you doo much for commenting. X

  7. Passionate mummy

    August 31, 2017 at 11:20 am

    Thank you what a lovely post. As a catholic l rarely go to church. I still believe very much but it does make it difficult when children are involved and your husband is an atheist. I wanted to have the kids baptised but my husband was against it.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 31, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      Children and family do make things harder that’s for sure. At least God is in you, therefore he will live on in your children too, regardless whether they are baptised or not. Thank you for your comment and keep the faith. X

  8. Rhyming with Wine

    August 31, 2017 at 7:38 pm

    I didn’t have a religious upbringing but I can absolutely see how your faith has played a beautiful part in your family life and I totally respect and agree with your beliefs and outlook. Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam x

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 31, 2017 at 7:46 pm

      Thank you. I tried to get across that religion isn’t always negative. It can be a simple as believe, pray and be a nice person. X

  9. Mrs T

    September 1, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    Hello there! Just stumbled across your blog via vipmums. What a great read about your religion I dont have a faith but can see how it is of comfort and support to some. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 2, 2017 at 9:20 pm

      Thank you for your comment. It is a massive comfort and support to me. X

  10. The Sane Mum

    September 2, 2017 at 10:40 am

    Your stag do was in Krakow! I’m Polish! 🙂 Good to read an honest, open post, not many bloggers open up like that! 🙂 ❤️

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 2, 2017 at 10:44 am

      Krakow was amazing. I’ve been twice and love it. We also had a holiday booked to Gdansk a few months ago but we couldn’t go because I was too ill. My mum went instead and loved it. So we’ll def need to book to go back again. Thank you, I wouldn’t be This real life Dad if I want real to myself. X

  11. HubbardChiwara2013

    September 2, 2017 at 10:51 am

    It is really inspiring to see a blogger be open about his religion and I think it is very interesting to see how a person’s religion shapes their world view.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 2, 2017 at 9:22 pm

      Thank you. I often wonder if I’d be the same person if i want raised with religion. I don’t think i would be. It helps me in so many ways.

  12. rabbitideas

    September 2, 2017 at 1:48 pm

    A very open and honest post here- I think ‘this real life dad’ is the perfect title for your blog as you are very genuine in your writing. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 2, 2017 at 9:27 pm

      One of my fav comments to date. I’m so glad you appreciate my genuine writing. I choose ‘This real life Dad’ without any thought about my writing style or what I’d be writing about and now I’m so glad my name represents the real me. Every post I write is from my heart and about my real life. X

  13. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz...

    September 2, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Love the final sentiment. i don’t believe in established religion or attending church but my faith in God is personal and strong. #thatfridaylinky

  14. Thisreallifedad

    September 2, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    For some religion can or has been tainted so badly that their perception of religion has changed. The final sentiment is just something that every human should adopt regardless of religion but unfortunately far too many people choose not to be decent human beings. Thank you for your comment.

  15. Vicky

    September 3, 2017 at 7:48 am

    Love your honesty! I’m also waiting for closeness to comeback in my walk of faith. He knows what’s in our hearts so it things can only get better right?

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 4, 2017 at 10:01 am

      He does know what’s in our hearts but I still think it’s probably up to us to make the initial step back into it. Then he will be there waiting for us. X

  16. passion fruit, paws and peonies

    September 3, 2017 at 8:09 am

    I think it’s very interesting to read how someone with faith applies that to their family life. It’s so important to have faith in something. Although I am not religious I have faith in humanity x

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 4, 2017 at 10:03 am

      Thanks. Faith in humanity, there is a big bold statement. If only everyone in the world did, then it would be filled with less hate and more love. X

  17. smilingjourney

    September 3, 2017 at 9:24 am

    beautiful…. personal thoughts about religion is always difficult to capture and ready to take a comment on it is not easy. quite inspiring

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 4, 2017 at 10:10 am

      I’ve lived with ridicule my whole life for being religious. Never bothered me on bit, I just smile and love that person even more. Thank you for commenting x

  18. diynige

    September 3, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    Really interesting read I’m a raised catholic but no longer believe Thank you for linking to #ThatFridayLinky Please come back next week

  19. twinmumemily

    September 3, 2017 at 7:47 pm

    Although I don’t follow a religion, I enjoyed reading this. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 3, 2017 at 7:00 pm

      Thank you. I appreciate that I can unite both religious and non religious people. At the end of the day we’re all just human trying to do our best.

  20. randommusings29

    September 4, 2017 at 12:12 am

    Interesting to read about your beliefs. Although I’m not religious, I think everyone should be able to believe whatever they want as long as it’s not hurting anyone else.

  21. Winnettes

    September 4, 2017 at 10:06 am

    I have to hold my hands up and say I don’t understand this. My husband was raised Catholic and I agreed our daughters could be baptised as it was important to him and I respect that. However we have decided not to send them to the local catholic school because I didn’t want to undermine the schools teachings and I wasn’t sure how much I was realistically going to be able to adopt. In my past career I did see the huge benefits of religion. In peoples dying days it was the one constant that gave them hope and acceptance. I agree that even without religion people can have a strong moral compass. However, the comfort it offers is not to be underestimated. This was a very interesting read, thank you.
    Thank you for joining #fortheloveofBLOG

    1. Thisreallifedad

      September 4, 2017 at 10:20 am

      Hi. Thanks for the comment, which part don’t you understand? My b wife v had taught in a Catholic and mainstream school, the teachings are the same but they would receive more RE. And not just on Catholicism, many of get pupils were different religions but wanted to put their child to a catholic school rather than a mainstream school just so they had some religious teachings too. Religion or no religion I just wish more people loved each other rather than use religion for any excuse to hate. X

      1. Winnettes

        September 18, 2017 at 9:43 am

        I absolutely agree, using religion for hate is a poor excuse. And not true either. We had religious teachings at school and my daughter will too without going to a Catholic school. Plus family (including my husband) will help with any questions she has. My issues come from a sadder place I won’t go into on here. I admire anyone who can find hope from religion, it only ever caused me upset, I find my hope from elsewhere and I felt telling my children anything else would be hypocritical on my part. But like I say I have seen the good religion (any religion) can do.

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