Positive Mind Positive Body- 7 Ways I Stay Positive

Staying positive

This past week has been one of massive ups and severe downs again. One day I feel so positive and can do anything. Then the next day I feel so run done that I can’t even get out of bed.

Today is a good day! So I’m going to make the most of it and write down a list of things that I can do to help me get through the bad days.

I think a lot of the down days or spells I have are completely down to the medication I’m taking. I’ve been on a lot of very strong medication for 3 months now. I can feel my body is relying on them too much. I hate that this is the case but when I do try cut back or wean off, I either become very sore, irritable, exhausted or very low. So for now I’m going to make sure that I do as the doctor says and take them regularly. I know I won’t be on them forever and it will be tricky to wean off after the surgery. But for now by body obviously needs these horrible medications to get me through the day. So I’m going to have to make sure I take them to keep me as level-headed as possible.

As I say it won’t be forever and hopefully the surgery will be fairly soon. In fact, just yesterday I was given a provisional date for the operation for the first week in September. So I have 3 weeks to wait, which in the grand scheme of things isn’t a massive time to wait. My goal for the next 3 weeks is to do everything I can to stay as healthy, as pain-free and as positive as I can be.

My best tips for staying positive

  1. Take my medication. As I said above my body needs it so I MUST make sure I take it to avoid a come done.
  2. Get up and shower daily. I know if I can force myself to get up out of bed, get washed, dressed and do my hair it helps boost my positive mindset. Some days it’s very hard to do and I’d much rather just lie and sleep or do nothing. But from now until the surgery I’m going to try extra hard to push myself to get up and shower.
  3. Do an activity with my children. Again this is fairly simple and really just common sense. I know if I’m able to get up and interact with my children and do an activity with them it will make me feel happier. Obviously there are lots of things I won’t physically be able to do. However, there are lots of things that we still can do that won’t require me to move or over exert myself. Any interaction is better than none.
  4. Talk openly to my wife and family. I’ve never been much of talker. I normally bottle everything up inside. Yesterday, after a really low day I opened up to my wife about how I felt. We spoke things through and It helped so much to have the support and love.
  5. Eat little and often. I’m currently on a puree diet, and most likely will be until after the surgery. This means I cannot eat as much or as healthy as I would like to. As a result I’ve lost 2 stone and feel faint if I don’t get enough nutrients into me. Therefore, to help balance the lack of nutrients and vitamins I’m getting from not eating properly, I have to supplement my diet with high protein and calorie drinks plus multivitamin tablets daily. On top of this I need to try eat more often. Even if it’s just a little bit every hour it will help and I shouldn’t feel so low. I’ll feel more positive, I’ll have more energy and hopefully won’t faint down the stairs again!!!
  6. Read other positive stories. This might sound silly but it’s helped me so much. Not just to read positive quotes but to also read positive stories. Stories of how others deal or are dealing with being in a similar situation. Knowing you are not alone and there is support out there can be a massive help. Especially in times when you feel like nobody else understands what you are going through. I’ve joined Facebook support pages to do with my illness and surgery. I’ve spoken to lots of people who have gone through or and going through similar problems.
  7. Set myself goals. I’m the type of person that needs motivation. I need to see end results to keep driving me forward. This is in all aspects of my life, from writing my blog posts to pushing the doctors for answers and ultimately surgery. I need to know that things are being done. I hate procrastination, so I set myself achievable goals and push myself until I get there. In the next 3 weeks and most likely after surgery too, I’ve set myself the above goals to help me get through this tough time.

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I know everyone has hard times in their life, for me the above 7 points are how I will remain positive. I’m under no illusions that I will still have hard days, but if I look back on these points I know I will be able to get through the day with a smile on my face.

If you are going through a hard time or finding it hard to stay positive, feel free to leave a comment or send me a private message. Don’t suffer in silence, there is always someone who you can talk to.

Thanks for reading

This real life Dad xx

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  1. John M

    August 15, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    very informative and inspirational post. I have picked some tips that I can apply to improve on my life. Thanks for sharing.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 15, 2017 at 3:41 pm

      You are very welcome. I’m glad you can use some of these to help in your life too.

  2. mentalrocknrollsex

    August 15, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    It’s awesome to see a dad blogger. Very inspirational and helpful!!!!

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 15, 2017 at 5:00 pm

      Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it. X

  3. Dieter

    August 15, 2017 at 6:56 pm

    Life balance is important and it is good to read you find things which bring you forward, cheers Dieter

  4. LeanneBrookes

    August 15, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    Some great tips for positivity. I especially loved being open with your wife. Talking is so important when we’re feeling down, particularly to our loved ones. Also, small things like having a shower and sticking to some routine, no matter how big or small, can really make a difference. Hope you’re feeling good today! Thanks for sharing

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 15, 2017 at 6:59 pm

      Thank you so much for commenting. Yeah I need to remember the talking and being more open with my loved ones even after I’m better. X

  5. Kimberly Parsons

    August 16, 2017 at 2:26 am

    It’s so hard to stay positive sometimes, but all the points you’ve posted really do help tremendously. I suffer from severe depression and OCD and I definitely identify with the suggestion of showering. Some days that’s the hardest thing to do, but I always strive to do at least that because it makes you feel so much better! Thank you for sharing and being open about your struggle. It helps to know that others are just trying to be positive too.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 16, 2017 at 7:33 am

      Hi Kimberly. Thank you for your comment. Sorry to hear you also struggle but hopefully this post helped a little.

  6. Yvonne

    August 16, 2017 at 1:06 pm

    Loved your post! I have been struggling the last nine months as well with serious health issues and this really hit home with me. While I was undergoing chemo therapy, I was pretty down, feeling unwell, could not leave the house, and countless other issues. I even started my own blog so that I would have something positive to do and also as an outlet for all my fears in dealing with my diagnosis. I love your list and wish that I could have read this sooner. Would you mind if I shared this on my blog?

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 16, 2017 at 1:28 pm

      Hi Yvonne, so sorry to great about your health issues over the last nine months. I did the same and started my blog so I could document all the things that were happening and how they were affecting my life and my families life. I would be honoured for you to use my post on your blog, just provide a link back to my page or this post and that’s not a problem. I’m so glad you liked the post and I hope it could inspire you a little. What is the name of your blog so I can have a read? X

  7. Ryan Worthen

    August 16, 2017 at 1:14 pm

    Great post, brother. I’m sorry to hear about the ups and downs, but you are so wise to document it through this blog and I’m confident you’ll look back someday and realize how much you’ve grown in the process. In the meantime, I hope you’re able to stick to these seven points and find comfort in knowing that you’re helping a lot of other people who read this!

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 16, 2017 at 1:31 pm

      Cheers Ryan. It does bring me so much comfort to know that I’m helping others. Thanks for your support and lovely message.

  8. lazysundays

    August 16, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    Great post. Very inspirational. Sometimes those hard days are really hard so having a list of what to do on those days is a great idea.

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 16, 2017 at 1:33 pm

      Thank you very much. Having a list to look at and stick to helps me so much. Makes it real for me and gives me the boost I need to get my butt in gear.

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  10. Aleena Brown

    August 18, 2017 at 1:37 pm

    These are brilliant tips for staying positive… I know for me if I don’t get up and get dressed straight away it sets the day up all wrong and makes me feel irritable.. #fortheloveofBLOG

  11. sothisislife89

    August 20, 2017 at 3:49 pm

    It’s totally awesome to see a dad blogger! Lots of parenting blogs are run by moms. To get a different perspective on things is awesome. Keep it up!

  12. Kelly Edwards

    August 22, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    It’s so important to remain positive. I really struggled a few months ago when I was ill for about 4 months on and off. It really got me down and staying on that positive side is SO tough. I found a book called ‘the art of being brilliant’ really good. I’m not saying that it’s going to revolutionise your life, as you know it’s not as easy as that. What it does do is makes it easy to understand how you can be more positive. Great post, Thanks for linking up to #fortheloveofblog

    1. Thisreallifedad

      August 22, 2017 at 7:00 pm

      Thanks Kelly. I’ll have a look for that book and give it a read. Staying on the positive side is sometimes harder than the illness itself. My emotions are up and down like a rollercoaster. Had a tough few days again yesterday and today. So hopefully tomorrow will be better. Thanks x

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    September 14, 2017 at 2:21 pm

    Keep up the positive attitude!! It goes a long way.

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