Positive Mind Positive Body- 7 Ways I Stay Positive
This past week has been one of massive ups and severe downs again. One day I feel so positive and can do anything. Then the next day I feel so run done that I can’t even get out of bed.
Today is a good day! So I’m going to make the most of it and write down a list of things that I can do to help me get through the bad days.
I think a lot of the down days or spells I have are completely down to the medication I’m taking. I’ve been on a lot of very strong medication for 3 months now. I can feel my body is relying on them too much. I hate that this is the case but when I do try cut back or wean off, I either become very sore, irritable, exhausted or very low. So for now I’m going to make sure that I do as the doctor says and take them regularly. I know I won’t be on them forever and it will be tricky to wean off after the surgery. But for now by body obviously needs these horrible medications to get me through the day. So I’m going to have to make sure I take them to keep me as level-headed as possible.
As I say it won’t be forever and hopefully the surgery will be fairly soon. In fact, just yesterday I was given a provisional date for the operation for the first week in September. So I have 3 weeks to wait, which in the grand scheme of things isn’t a massive time to wait. My goal for the next 3 weeks is to do everything I can to stay as healthy, as pain-free and as positive as I can be.
My best tips for staying positive
- Take my medication. As I said above my body needs it so I MUST make sure I take it to avoid a come done.
- Get up and shower daily. I know if I can force myself to get up out of bed, get washed, dressed and do my hair it helps boost my positive mindset. Some days it’s very hard to do and I’d much rather just lie and sleep or do nothing. But from now until the surgery I’m going to try extra hard to push myself to get up and shower.
- Do an activity with my children. Again this is fairly simple and really just common sense. I know if I’m able to get up and interact with my children and do an activity with them it will make me feel happier. Obviously there are lots of things I won’t physically be able to do. However, there are lots of things that we still can do that won’t require me to move or over exert myself. Any interaction is better than none.
- Talk openly to my wife and family. I’ve never been much of talker. I normally bottle everything up inside. Yesterday, after a really low day I opened up to my wife about how I felt. We spoke things through and It helped so much to have the support and love.
- Eat little and often. I’m currently on a puree diet, and most likely will be until after the surgery. This means I cannot eat as much or as healthy as I would like to. As a result I’ve lost 2 stone and feel faint if I don’t get enough nutrients into me. Therefore, to help balance the lack of nutrients and vitamins I’m getting from not eating properly, I have to supplement my diet with high protein and calorie drinks plus multivitamin tablets daily. On top of this I need to try eat more often. Even if it’s just a little bit every hour it will help and I shouldn’t feel so low. I’ll feel more positive, I’ll have more energy and hopefully won’t faint down the stairs again!!!
- Read other positive stories. This might sound silly but it’s helped me so much. Not just to read positive quotes but to also read positive stories. Stories of how others deal or are dealing with being in a similar situation. Knowing you are not alone and there is support out there can be a massive help. Especially in times when you feel like nobody else understands what you are going through. I’ve joined Facebook support pages to do with my illness and surgery. I’ve spoken to lots of people who have gone through or and going through similar problems.
- Set myself goals. I’m the type of person that needs motivation. I need to see end results to keep driving me forward. This is in all aspects of my life, from writing my blog posts to pushing the doctors for answers and ultimately surgery. I need to know that things are being done. I hate procrastination, so I set myself achievable goals and push myself until I get there. In the next 3 weeks and most likely after surgery too, I’ve set myself the above goals to help me get through this tough time.
I know everyone has hard times in their life, for me the above 7 points are how I will remain positive. I’m under no illusions that I will still have hard days, but if I look back on these points I know I will be able to get through the day with a smile on my face.
If you are going through a hard time or finding it hard to stay positive, feel free to leave a comment or send me a private message. Don’t suffer in silence, there is always someone who you can talk to.
Thanks for reading
This real life Dad xx