Our Wedding and 5th Anniversary.
On July 14th 2012, me and Ruth finally tied the knot and became husband and wife. It was one of the happiest days of my life, I finally married my soul mate. That sounds very cliché, but it’s also the truth.
If you’re already married you’ll know how true what I’m away to say is. The day passes so quickly. One minute you’re saying ‘I Do’ then next minute you’re being thrown aloft by your mates for the final dance of the evening. People always tell you to savour every minute of the day because it will pass so quick, but until the day arrives and you’ve experienced it, you won’t really appreciate what they mean.
You might find this hard to believe but I’m a very quiet and reserved man, normally very nervous about having the limelight on me. I was very nervous on the lead up to the wedding then on the morning of my wedding day something changed. I was so calm and happy the day had finally arrived, the champagne breakfast and vodka hip flask might have helped.
The only real nerves I felt all day was when I was standing on the altar waiting for my bride to arrive, I didn’t know what to do with myself. I was desperate to see her but I didn’t want to turn round to watch her walk down the aisle, so instead I just gathered my focus and looked straight ahead. I heard the doors open and the music start so I knew she had arrived and I’d see her very soon. She finally reached the front and I turned to see her, the wave of emotion and love hit me like a lightening bolt, that moment will live with me forever. She was simply stunning.
The next few hours passed in no time, service, photos then onto the hotel to see our guests. Champagne on arrival while all the kids were running around with pick n mix bags full of sweets that were not supposed to be opened yet…lol.
Again I remember being so happy and so relaxed, perhaps the fact I didn’t have a speech to do me helped. Due to my fear of public speaking my wife said a few words on my/our behalf.She made a joke that she likes to get the last word in, but in actual fact it was because of my fear. To this day it’s still one of my biggest regrets and failings as a man, knowing I wasn’t brave enough to stand up and tell my wife how much I loved her and how happy I was to finally be her husband. Although I know she knows how much I love her, it would have been extra special if I’d plucked up the courage to be able to tell her on her special day.
The rest of the evening was breathtaking! My wife and I, plus all our guests were almost never off the dance floor. Our first dance was ‘Just the way you are’ by Bruno Mars, then we had some party classics with the odd traditional Scottish country dance thrown in for good mix. After the buffet when everyone was suitably drunk and re-energized we had a friend and top Aberdeen DJ perform for the last few hours. He was unbelievable, with everyone commenting on how amazing he was. For me it was for me the perfect end to the prefect day.
So that was the Wedding day, now here we are 5 years on… Ruth is still with me and we are as good as ever.
I’m not going to lie and say we’ve had the perfect marriage, we haven’t, we’ve had our problems, I’m sure every couple does. She’s put up with a lot of difficult situations, mainly my doing to be honest but I’d like to share with you how we’ve dealt with each hard time in our lives, who knows maybe it will help you too.
We use each problem or hardship to make us stronger. I won’t go into the personal details of our hard times but each time we get knocked or have to fight; we talk to each other, we share our feelings and we support each other. Then in the end we come out the other side stronger then ever, loving each other more, understanding each other more and knowing that as a unit we will be able to tackle anything together. I think this, as a married couple, is our greatest achievement.
As I mentioned we’ve been married just a little over 5 years, with our 5 year anniversary only just passed a few weeks ago. Normally we are very good at making a big deal of special occasions, we love to spoil each other and show them how special they are.
However, this year thing’s were slightly different for us; there was no breakfast in bed, no special card with my usual long soppy message, no going out for tea and to be honest we barely even saw each other as I was rushed to hospital at 7am on the morning of our anniversary. I had an awful day in hospital and my wife was at home with kids being a mum.
I came home from hospital later that day and was greeted by my wife and kids smiling at the door and happy to see me again. What more could any husband or father want for their anniversary. For me that feeling of returning home was greater than any present, because even though we weren’t able to spoil each other or do what most couples would on an anniversary the biggest gift for us was to appreciate and still love each other.
So a quick message to my wife Ruth, you are the best wife, the best mother, the most passionate, caring and loving person I know. I want you to know I appreciate you and I love you with all my heart. For ever and ever.
A very emotional This real life dad xx